I had every intention of sitting down to write a “Thankful Thursday” post. I have been working on it off and on all day in my head. But then I made the mistake of checking out the “news”. This is never a good idea, yet for some insane reason I find myself checking out the news at least once or twice a day. I should have skipped the twice part today…
When I perused over to FoxNews I was appalled to find this article. I have an 11 year old child!! I look at him and I can’t help but think that this country is trying…desperately…to destroy his innocence!! Now, this article does say (towards the end, like an afterthought), that they do encourage abstinece in these kids, but really, my first, FIRST question is “Where are the PARENTS?!?!” Really?!?! Now, I don’t know about the state of Pennsylvania, or the Philidelphia area, but where I live, children under the age of 12 are not recommended to be left home alone without supervision.
Now, all that aside, what about where are these kids getting this idea in their heads that sex is okay for them at that age? Seriously?!?! When I was 11, the very last thought (and I’m talking not even in my universe of thought) was sex!! I was more concerned with riding my bike, climbing trees, and kick-the-can, but sex….NOT!!!
And above all else, above all else, what about what God says about sex? Are we not supposed to be in a marital union with an husband/wife before sexual relations are present? Again, I ask, where are the parents? I understand, we have latch-key kids all over this country, but don’t even the poorest parents in the country, in the world, want better for their children than what they have? Don’t parents want their children to make better decisions than they did? If the answers to these questions are yes (which somewhere deep down I really, really want that to believe that is the case), then why, why aren’t parents taking the time to sit down and talk with their children?
Why aren’t parents taking the time to admit their failures and mistakes to their children? Not in a sassy, critical of their child, condemning manner, but in a manner that is sincere, from the heart, is almost a desperate heart-cry: “I love you so much, I am willing to humble myself, be raw, and honest because I want you to understand the pain, I want you to understand the hurt, I want you to understand the disappointment for not making good, right decisions.” I wish, no, I pray that every parent in the world would have the courage to say that to their children.
Believe me when I say, I get it. It’s not easy. It is one of the hardest things to ever do. I know…because I’ve been that raw with my children. It is humbling in a way that I just do not have words for. Why? Because here, in front of you, is your child. The person you would lay your life down for if the choice was your life or theirs. You are supposed to be their hero. And you are exposing your deepest, darkest, hardest, in some cases maybe, even humilitating experiences in an effort to teach your child. There are risks, yes. But I believe the rewards far outway the risks.
This doesn’t just go for the sex talk, but for finances, education, marital decisions, any decision, but an excellent place, and I believe the first place to start is with the sex talk. If we truly, truly want to see sexual promiscuity in our children diminish to historical lows, then it’s way past time for parents to let go of their pride, let go of their selfish pity parties, and interact with their children. The television is not a babysitter. The computer/internet is not a babysitter. Ignoring our children is not the answer. Yes, dear Lord, yes, our children ask us some of the most difficult, and yes, even embarrissing questions, but it is our responsibility to address those questions with love, honesty, and a hope for the future.
Jeremiah 29:11 states, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a furture and a hope.” Does anyone really believe that ‘thoughts of peace’ equates to sex (and I won’t even go into the mental and emotional ramifications of the ‘choice’ as the article puts it)? Does anyone believe that “to give you a future and a hope” equates to sex at 11 years old?!?!
I know I’m singling out the 11 year olds here, but I also have a 12 year old and an 18 year old. I can assure you that my younger two are no where near old enough emotionally, or mentally (in other words life experience) to make such a mature decision about sex! But encouraging it (which providing free condoms does like it or not) makes the adults involved in these childrens lives just about as immature. There I said it. Chronological maturity does not equate to emotional or mental maturity. I know, how critical. Is it really though? Take a good look at this article. Really look at the “justifications” behind the decision. Ask yourself some of those hard, self-reflecting questions, and then decide ~ does chronological maturity equal emotional or mental maturity. When decisions such as this one (giving kids free condoms) is made by some organization or governmental entity, I can not, and will not equate chronological maturity with emotional or mental maturity. And what is the solution to that problem ~ Jesus! How is Jesus the answer…I’ll answer that question another day.