Anyone who has known me for the majority of my life, who happens to be reading this, will find the irony of what I am about to say almost palpable. Ready? Wait…here it comes…
Why on earth does nearly everyone find it necessary to cuss in close to every single sentence they utter?!? I know, I used to be so guilty of this so it’s not like I’m a prude or anything. There was a time in my life where I could make long-shore-men blush. It is not something I am proud of, I’m just sayin. I used to be guilty of this too.
Am I perfect about it now? NO! There are times when the occasional unflattering word will pass my lips and let me assure you, I feel the conviction of the Holy Spirit deep inside my soul when I do.
For those who are reading this and are thinking, “oh, don’t go all holy roller on me”, I know exactly where the rest of that thought pattern is going. Been there, done that, had a bonfire with the t-shirts.
There is absolutely nothing that can’t be said without adding attention seeking words. Yes, that’s right, attention seeking words, or words that are intended to insight a reaction whether it is positive or negative. And whether or not you are trying to influence a persons response. See, I have been there, I have done that.
I am so thankful that one of the first things the Holy Spirit convicted me of was my language…or lack there of as the case truly was at the time. I used every word from A to Z that would, or could be used to aggravate, anger, or even get someone to join on the ‘four-letter-word’ fest. There was nothing cool about it. Not now. Not then.
The conviction always came in this form, “Now, wasn’t there a better way that you could have said that?”, or “Now, could you possibly take the unflavorable word out? Would your sentence/question still convey your thought?” My personal favorite was always, and still is, “Now, what is a better adjective/verb that you could have used?”
Like I said, I am far from perfect on this one. The less-than-lovely language will still rear it’s ugly head (and yes, it is ugly) now and then, and the thing is, I offend myself when I do. I’m not telling anyone what they have to do, I am just suggesting that we really think about what we say (or post, as in on Facebook/Twitter/MySpace ~ whatever you choose) before we say it.
I used to roll my eyes when my Grandmother got on me about my language. She would tell me that it was unflattering. My language was a reflection of my character. I didn’t get that then…I do now. We can’t always blame the other person for how they perceive us when we are projecting something that is ugly, unsavory, and character-less.
If I’ve hurt anyone’s feelings, or made anyone angry, I’m sorry. I just really feel sad for the friends that I know and love dearly, who I know are really unaware of how what they are saying is being received, and it’s because I love them that I am finally just sayin.